Recognizing the signs. 1- Notice the lack of modesty. Most sociopaths can commit atrocities without feeling a bit of remorse. These actions may include physical abuse or public humiliation of others. If the person is a true sociopath, she will not feel any remorse for hurting others, lying, manipulating people or even acting unacceptably. When a sociopath does something wrong, he is more likely not to accept any guilt and instead blame others. Sociopaths are willing to hurt anyone in any situation if it means they will achieve their goals. That is why many of them are successful people. Sociopaths can be cruel to animals and will not display any remorse for it. 2- Observe if the person is constantly lying. Sociopaths feel comfortable spending their whole lives telling lies. In fact, true sociopaths even feel uncomfortable telling the truth. When they are finally caught in the act, they will continue to lie and invent new ways of supporting what they have said. However, if they are on the verge of being caught in an unbelievably large lie, they can even confess madly everything that has happened to maintain their loyalty. Sociopaths love to lie about the past as well. Look for inconsistencies in your stories. Some of them make incredible efforts to make you believe their lies. For example, a sociopath may pretend to go out to "go to work" every day, even though he is unemployed. Many sociopaths are deceived into believing that their lies are the truth. For example, Charles Manson once said, "I never killed anyone! I do not need to kill anyone!" (in reference to the fact that it was his followers who killed other people, not him directly) 3- Note if the person can maintain a strange calm despite the circumstances. A sociopath can go through a highly emotional event (for others) without feeling any emotion. Sociopaths do not understand events in the same way as neurotypical people, sometimes barely reacting to dangerous or frightening situations. If they forget to act, their reaction to any good or bad news will be similar to an empty cold look. If you feel nervous or panicky, but the person next to you is not disturbed, it may be that she does not understand the event as seriously as you. This may be a sign of a lack of empathy. This symptom includes sociopaths, who lack emotional empathy. Observe whether the person has already seemed anxious or nervous, especially in situations that would naturally provoke this reaction. Although some people are more balanced than others, most of them present some anxiety at one time or another. Studies have shown that sociopaths do not show anxiety when seeing images that would disrupt others or expect to receive small electrical shocks, while neurotypical people exhibit anxiety and fear in such situations. 4- Observe if they are extremely charming - at first. Sociopaths are great at fascinating people because they know how to get what they want. Charming people know how to make others feel special, ask the right questions about them, and generally know how to be considered fun, enjoyable, and interesting. Really charming people have the ability to delight almost anyone, from children to the elderly. If it is incredibly fascinating from the start, but the later behaviors frighten or confuse you, you may be with a sociopath in your hands. You can think of sociopaths as disguised actors who always have ulterior motives. They need to know how to entice people to get what they want. To advance their goals, they first mingle with the crowd, needing to know how to smile, greet people, and make them comfortable. Although many sociopaths can be extremely charming, they cultivate strong antisocial inclinations. In a moment, they will be charming and, in the other, cold and distant. In addition, they are not very genuine in social interactions. When people are very contradictorily opposed in their behaviors, going from antisocial to extremely charismatic, this is an indicator of disintegration of the psyche - a red flag. This may also be an attempt to find rejections and wounds to use as a form of control of others.This attitude is always accompanied by a lack of compassion or consideration for the life of another person. If the individual does not seem genuine in his or her way of acting, it may be that he is someone with sociopathic tendencies. 5- Observe if the person is manipulative. Sociopaths understand human weaknesses and exploit them to the fullest. When they are determined, they can manipulate other individuals to do almost anything. Sociopaths attack people who are weak and often stay away from equally strong people; they look for those who are sad, insecure, or looking for meaning in life, for they know they will be easy targets. In other words, a person with outstanding needs will be a prey easily manipulated through their needs. See if the individual is excellent at getting others to do what he or she wants. Sociopaths slowly gain more mastery and control over the person without her realizing it. They like to be in control of all situations and feel uncomfortable being around other strong people. They are always worried about being exposed. When strong people are around, they are afraid of being caught. They will keep the distance and, by far, make a little contact with the 'strong' person, to see if they are noticed. However, sociopaths like to attack strong people who can cheat or who do not see or expose them. When they feel exposed, they will play cards or run away ... always with the excuse that nothing makes sense. Much of the domain is conquered through psychological warfare, creating a dependency on the other person. As a poison, your goal is to weaken people over time. They decide that if they can remain invisible, they will be able to escape unharmed. Observe if the person feels completely comfortable cheating people and telling lies blatantly to get what they want. In the same way that they have little or no empathy, they also have a fairly low or poor level of integrity. 6- Check for signs of behavior that encourage violence. As children, some sociopaths torture people or defenseless animals. This violence is always manifesting itself, not defensively. They create drama of any situation or distort what others speak. If challenged or confronted, they will point the finger to the other side, counting on the empathic person's consideration and empathy to protect them, as long as they remain hidden. This attempt to point the finger to the other side serves both as a block not to be detected as an attempt to create confusion in the circumstance in which they find themselves. If you have noticed that although the person seems superficially calm, he may freak out and become violent at any moment, but to return to quietness soon after, he may be exhibiting sociopathic tendencies.7- See if the person has a huge ego. Sociopaths often have illusions of grandiosity and think they are the most important people in the world. They are completely insensitive to criticism and have an incredibly swollen self-esteem. In addition, they will demonstrate a great sense of entitlement, if they deem worthy of others creating extraordinary things for them, without having any consideration for their welfare. They do not care about others, they just want to use them. [3] They may also have a completely false view of their own abilities; for example, may consider themselves extremely talented in singing or dancing when in reality they have no skill in those areas. They are deluded, which is usually true, or just speak such things to strengthen the disguise or mask they use or create for their deceptive purposes. One may think that it is better than everyone around, without any evidence pointing this out. She may also be narcissistic. In that case, the person will be much more interested in talking about themselves than listening to what others have to say. In addition, she spends much more time looking in the mirror than observing other people in the world. In general, she does not want to hear anything that others have to say. 8 - See if the individual has few true friends. Although not everyone is lucky in the friendship lottery, their custody should always be high if the person has virtually no true friends. She may have lackeys, who spend time with her just to be sent, or people standing around to take the leftovers from what is conquered; try to find out if it has meaningful connections with others. If she practically has no friends, there is a good chance that there is something wrong with her, unless she is very timid or has another compelling reason not to have friends. This also works for family members. If the person does not have contact with any family member and never talks about them, there may also be a problem. Of course, she may have other reasons not to talk to certain people, such as having a difficult childhood. Look for an absence of connection with the past. If she has practically no friends of high school, college or any part of the past or of life, she may also be a sociopath. After being exposed or finding a more ideal victim, she will move on. What you always want is to cause damage to other people's lives. 9- Observe if the person likes to leave it isolated. Sociopaths like to meet people, move quickly, and get close. That way, you will not have enough time to go back or think twice. You will notice that, even after a few weeks, the sociopath has been acting very intimately and intensely around you, if it is a romantic relationship. It can even make you feel like you're a soul mate, just because you're incredibly capable of reading people and saying exactly what they want to hear. The sociopath has probably determined that you have a pending need or a dream of having a close relationship and consider it a good opportunity to wear a mask that matches that need or dream. In the end, he will still want you just for him instead of "sharing" with the world. [5]If you are leaving, the sociopath will quickly try to stop you from going out with friends, because you will feel threatened by them. He'll make up excuses for not spending time with them, saying things like "they do not understand me like you," "they never give me a chance," or "they're just putting him against me because they do not like me." He places himself as a victim to the extreme and tries to awaken the victim's empathic protection, thereby trying to make you feel as if you are the only one capable of saving him, who must spend all his time with him and listen only to what he has to tell. 10- Observe if the person is immature. Sociopaths do not learn from their mistakes and always repeat the same misconceptions, over and over again. In this way, they do not mature or develop like other people. Look for immature behaviors that may be hidden beneath the look of charisma and charm. Here are some points to note: Extreme egoism. The person wants everything for himself at any cost. This comes with an unwillingness to share. An immense ego. She is so obsessed with herself that she does not care about anyone else. Need. The person wants you to be there for her whenever you deem it important. Inability to deal with responsibilities. The person is not prepared to deal with or receive any form of meaningful responsibility. It will pass any task on to others and take credit by ignoring failures or avoiding liability altogether.
Escaping the Sociopath: 1- Do not give him anything he wants from you. When dealing with sociopaths, be as tedious as possible so as not to fuel your lack of enthusiasm. Sociopaths get bored very easily. This also includes not giving them the emotional entertainment they desire. Keep your cool by talking to him and do not get carried away or get into a discussion. Also, pretend to have nothing the sociopath might want from you. Pretend you lost your money, had your things stolen, or something like that. No matter what you give him, find an excuse - no confrontation or emotion involved - to not be able to do it anymore. 2- Stay away if possible. After confirming that the person is completely sociopathic, it is best to avoid it as much as necessary. If it is a co-worker or someone in your circle of friends, it may not be possible to avoid it altogether, but you can still distance yourself as much as possible. Remember that a sociopath will be able to detect your desire to move away, further intensifying your efforts on you; be firm and determined to spend as little time as possible with him. This is not to say that you must act openly cruel or hostile; otherwise, you can even put yourself in a dangerous situation. Do not tell the person "I know you're a sociopath." This can make you angry or even more determined to win over you. It is important that she does not know that you have deciphered her; just stay as far away as possible without being rude. 3- Be immune to the sociopath's charms. He may try to enchant you and earn you gifts, compliments or stories given solely with the intention of appearing to be someone pleasant. Remember that once you have determined that this person is sociopathic, there is no turning back. No amount of charming behavior or lies can win you back to his side. Do not let him gain a second chance by flattery and flattery. Do not give in. The sociopath may even make you feel sorry for him, talking about how lonely he is and how important you are to him. However, if he is as liar and manipulative as you have determined, there is no possibility of feeling sorry for him, other than regretting that he is suffering from a mental problem.4- If you are dating this person, quit the relationship as soon as possible. If you are dating the sociopath, you should escape as quickly and safely as possible. The longer you wait, the worse things will be and most likely you will be sucked back into the person's line of thinking. If you need to end the relationship, talk to her as soon as possible; needless to say you want the end of dating because she is a sociopath. Remember that there is a big difference between a careless person and a sociopath. You may even call someone a sociopath because you have treated him badly or because you act selfishly, but these may be mere character flaws. A full sociopath really does not care what anyone thinks or feels - in any situation. If you're really in a controller or manipulator relationship, you might not want to end up on your own. You may want to end up on the phone or invite a friend with you to pick up your things. A sociopath will not accept 'no' as an answer. If you try to end the relationship, he can go into desperation and even take violent action to force you to stay. 5. Tell other people. While it is not necessary to go around proclaiming that the person is a sociopath to the whole world (unless it is a real danger to others), consider telling people who are closest to it. Do not irritate 'the person' by telling everyone that she is a sociopath. However, if a situation arises in which a potential victim really needs to be warned, do not be afraid to say what you think. Consider each case as a case. If the person in question is a superior in the company, then it really is not a good idea to go out and warn others about it. But you should stay as far as possible. Think for yourself. Sociopaths attack people who have trouble thinking on their own or who are looking for someone to guide them. The best way to become immune to charms or to lessen the likelihood of finding sociopaths in the future is to be sure that you know who you are and be able to create your own ideas and see the world in your own eyes. Sociopaths stay away from people with strong mindsets and original thinkers, as they know they are difficult to control. [6] Although it may take a lifetime to be able to think exclusively on your own, to make an effort to learn about current events, to understand the various sides of any situation, and to spend time with people with thoughts different from yours can be incredibly useful in his quest for autonomy of thought. Part of this is about trust. If you feel confident about yourself, you will also have more confidence in your ideas. And you'll be much more likely to chase away any sociopaths who come your way!7- Abandon the fear of the sociopath. Instead of yielding, use your own reasoning ability (as noted earlier), the reason and the calmness to react. First of all, a sociopath can fake absolutely everything, including what was listed above, so that if he is simulating something, it is not worth being diplomatic and putting himself in a dead end. Secondly, sociopaths are intelligent, a point that can serve as a source of great anxiety if you try to accompany him or pretend to be so wise or knowledgeable - or, more likely, avoid the immense need he has to put his own intelligence or cleverness in the center of everything. If you stop fearing the sociopath and stop trying to be better or be on the same level, becoming more accepting of yourself and valuing what makes you worthy and valuable, he will have great difficulties in manipulating you. Most sociopaths are not murderers, sadists or a set of monsters; are human beings that must be dealt with carefully. They did not choose to be sociopaths, any more than you chose to be a victim of their traps. However, you can hamper or facilitate the manipulation you will get on your weaker side, so the choice is in your hands. Educate yourself as to the means by which human beings manipulate and mistrust others and arm themselves with those who will be used to overcome them, so that they can follow their life normally. This is not to say that the sociopath will value his attitude of showing himself strong and his refusal to yield. However, it will stop spending energy on you or try to manipulate you, knowing that you will discover your intentions at all times. This is boring, and no sociopath likes boredom.
Some scientists believe that sociopaths suffer from damage to the prefrontal cortex, which regulates emotions and morality, for example. Sociopaths tend to blame the victim for their failures. They can never admit their mistakes and instead attack the victims. This behavior is key in any medical diagnosis. Most individuals are aware of their need to hide negative traits and are generally composed of good actors (adapted to be different), so that these more obvious behaviors are usually noticed in less intelligent, younger, or psychologically deficient sociopaths (incapable of hiding cruel or gross antisocial behavior). Some experts say that many sociopaths are people who have suffered child abuse. Sociopathic behavior is strongly hereditary. Observe the problems of the family to really know the personality of the individual. You know a sociopath will lie about your past, so take everything he says with a little skepticism. Also, look for consistencies in your stories. Generally, there will be one or two details among all inventions that remain the same. They could be true or, yet, something they say so often that they think is true. If a person is "too good to be true," it is likely to be. This is the case for any diagnosis of pathologies, including sociopathies, borderline personality disorders and narcissism. Sociopaths generally know how to make others consider them victims, although they are the aggressors. This kind of person will say things for you to forgive and, in the future, deny saying anything. This is a mental game tactic. Realize that he can try to manipulate you and learn to observe when these attempts come into play. Otherwise, it can lead you to do things you do not want. Try to manipulate it. Although difficult, this can be very rewarding if you are able to do so. For this, it is necessary to make you think that it was an idea of him. Make him believe that he wants to do what you want him to do. If you think that you had nothing to do with the idea, it will be more likely to do it. Sociopaths are often emotionally exaggerated in their youth. They watch others' reactions to circumstances and imitate such reactions. Pay close attention and you will notice that they react with a certain delay. They may look like sensitive children who imitate emotions they see, but exaggeratedly. Write down the details of your interactions - with date, time and description.These grades will be valuable in knowing what was said, what happened, and so on - and may be vital if you need legal proof to get a restraining order. Warnings: Sociopaths are excellent liars because they are not aware. They will use every justification for their actions as much as possible in order to avoid being discovered by who they really are. Sociopaths are less likely to have emotions and therefore are able to use theirs against you. It is more effective to deal with people in terms they can understand; so if it is necessary to deal with a sociopath, leave emotions and feelings aside, or he will be able to control them. Be immune to the sociopath's charms. This is crucial. Do not let him know that you've already deciphered him. While this may have several outcomes depending on the sociopath, it is still better that he does not know to what extent you know. Although not all sociopaths are violent, it is best to distance yourself from these people on any emotional level or friendship level. Sociopathic tendencies are often confused with many problems, such as autism, and vice versa. The main difference is that sociopaths are not aware, but autistic people care, but they do not know how to respond or react, and they do it the wrong way. Source: ↑ http://www.naturalnews.com/036112_sociopaths_cults_influence.html ↑ http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/mind-reviews-confessions-of-sociopath/ ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/ diseases-conditions / antisocial-personality-disorder / basics / tests-diagnosis / CON-20027920
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